This will help drown out the negative voices in their head that try to convince them they lack the potential to succeed. The most effective catchphrases are short and easy to remember:. Whether it's moving to a new school or not being able to play with friends during the pandemic, change is tough.
Your kid might miss the way things used to be or worry that what's happening might make their life worse. But mentally strong kids understand that change can help them grow into an even stronger person, even though it might not feel that way at first. Name your emotions: Change feels uncomfortable. But just putting a name to your feelings can lessen the sting of these emotions.
Unfortunately, most of us don't spend enough time thinking about how we feel. In fact, even as adults, we tend to put more energy into fighting our emotions. So when your kid is faced with a major change, have them talk elaborately about how they're feeling. More importantly, help them find — and define — the right words to describe it e. Everyone struggles to speak up, say no, or express their feelings once in a while.
But depending on the situation, choosing not to say yes makes you stronger. Kids often struggle to say no because it can feel awkward and weird. By finding the courage to do it more often, however, they'll find that it gets easier over time. It also reduces the stress of having to commit to things they don't want to do. Try the "give up" test : When your kid is faced with a decision to say yes or no, ask them what they will have to give up if they say yes.
For example, saying yes to a playdate at a friend's house might mean giving up time spent with siblings. Ask them: "Are you willing to give that thing up? If they decide they don't mind, then they can go ahead and say yes. Kids are often tempted to hide their mistakes because they don't want to get in trouble.
Maybe they forgot to do their homework or accidentally broke an expensive vase. Owning your mistakes helps you build character. Kids who are brave enough to practice this recognize what they did wrong, and mentally prepare themselves to fully admit to what they did. Create an environment for success: If your kid is disorganized, they probably have a hard time remembering all their assignments. Struggle sucked don't get me wrong! The new version I built of myself was a better version.
Pain that was my enemy became my ally As Rumi said, "The wound is the place where the light enters you. I also used to say things like, "I wish I was strong enough to beat this on my own. A psychiatrist once said to me, "What if you are strong for staying in treatment? What if you are strong for getting help? Society often gives the message that displaying emotions or asking for help is weak. Well, society's message is just plain wrong and ridiculous. Society needs some therapy. It is incredibly brave to get help.
Some of the most courageous, inspiring, badass people I know have mental health conditions, got treatment and rock at their lives. Here are six reasons why people with mental illnesses you, if that applies are strong, not weak:. You've had to struggle. Struggle makes people grow in strength. Oprah said, "Where there is no struggle, there is no strength" and she's Oprah You've had to deal with the illness and, on top of it, the stigma, misconceptions and ignorance that surrounds it.
Your illness is invisible, so people are less compassionate and understanding. Their skeptical about it's validity. Joe Jenkins broken his leg and he's so brave. Everyone is bringing him flowers, signing his cast, and making him homemade apple pie. Everyone is ignoring you whispering behind your back. You get the weird McDonalds apple pie. People tell you about their friend Mary who cured her depression by eliminating gluten because she has amazing willpower.
People recommend positive thinking. I never thought of that! Many people seem to think being kind means you're a pushover or a people pleaser. But showing compassion for a neighbor, giving a colleague the benefit of the doubt, and spending your spare time helping someone with a project could be a sign of strength. Showing kindness often takes courage and confidence. What if the recipient doesn't want your help? What if your act of friendship isn't reciprocated?
Strong people are willing to take those social risks. Changing your mind doesn't necessarily mean you're wishy washy or easily influenced. Instead, it may indicate you're open to gathering more information and hearing other ideas. Whether your ideas about politics have changed over time or your values have shifted as you've grown older, changing your mind might be proof you are growing and learning. There's a difference between speaking the truth and putting yourself down.
Acknowledging you're bad at confronting people or that you struggle to be organized might show you're strong enough to admit your imperfections. Acknowledging your weaknesses can also help you take positive action.
You might delegate tasks that you struggle to do or you could develop a plan to help you succeed despite your shortcomings. With so much emphasis on "hustle" these days, patience is often confused with inactivity or a lack of ambition.
But reaching big goals--like getting out of debt or getting in shape--takes patience. Real change doesn't happen overnight and exercising the patience needed to get there takes strength. Saying "I can't do this on my own" is a real act of courage. Whether you ask your boss for more assistance or you reach out to a mental health professional, asking for help requires humility and strength of character.
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