And I feel like we really click with each other. Been calling each other a lot but after that they kind of fell silent a couple of days. But to feel comfortable.. Any help really is appreciated.
Thank you so so much. This was so helpful. It has made me feel more confident in my relationship with my boyfriend who is struggling with depression. I have been going through the samething with my fiance of 8 years. You have done the hard part which is to walk away and give him space now its just time. Please wait until he gets back rational thinking until this time he wont be able to cope with what a relationship encompasses in general whether its with u or someone else nothing personal to u and u will suffer too as u will want to help him but unfortunately this is something that he can only help himself get out of.
Maybe ask him what he needs u to do to help but be prepared if one of those things is space from u, dont take it personal it will just allow him time to get back to normal self again and to process hurt or guilt or any negative emotion that he is feeling. Stay strong and continue to show understanding. Remember what will be will be. This is an amazing article.
This was exactly what I needed to read. It helps me understand him and also myself. Thank you!!!! I have a friend who was abused by his mother and kicked out of his house when he was Help him in every way you can.
Have a heart to heart talk. People who suffer from depression are unable to login express anything properly and that includes the need for love and help. They are too scared to trust others and can often push away people because of the pain that they carry inside themselves. I too suffer from depression and being in a relationship too has not been able to get me out of it. The same is with your friend.
Talking helps. Ofcourse you have a life as well and your own plans for your day to day life but even a minute of talking or a help or even a bit of care might help him break the shell he is in and help him reach out to the people that matter to him.
Best wishes. And I pray and hope your friend gets better. Loving someone with any metal illness is like taking the most emotional rollercoaster possible. They may get better through treatment or medications, but they also may not. Thank you for this. This is what I needed to hear today.
I know he loves me but all this stuff is eating him up alive. I have the same problem. My BF is depressed from already 3 months. He told me he loves me ,same time he spend time somewhere on drugs all the time.
She still texts me but I try not to to not influence her judgement on whether she loves me or not. The day it happened she suddenly changed to a different person and so cold to me. I cried at her doorstep, it hurts me so much.
Thank you so much. I also took a break to be more patient and understand her situation. I even asked her to just break up with me bcs I realised I was hurting her with her being scared of me and it drives me insane.
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Strong steady breathing will reverse the fight or flight physiology that causes nausea, butterflies, Oct Needs and behaviour can get tangled up and treated as one. When you can, separate the need from the National Institute of Mental Health. The impact of untreated depression extends to all the people closest to the person with depression. It is accurate to state that in one way or another most of us have been impacted by depression.
You can help your loved one by helping them keep up with taking their medication and remembering appointments. You can also help them by reassuring them that asking for help is not a sign of weakness or something to be ashamed of.
Therapists, counselors, and support groups are not only for people with depression. Seeking professional help for yourself can help you feel supported, vent your frustrations, and make you more aware of your own emotional needs. Therapy can also provide answers to any questions you have about coping with the depression of a loved one. More than anything else, those with depression just want you to care.
Seeing you make an effort to understand them will mean the world to them. One of the most important things you can do for someone who is depressed is simply to be there for them and verbalize your support.
Hold them close or just listen while they share their feelings. Offer to help them with making appointments or doing some of the daily chores that they are struggling to keep up with. Let them know that you are there for them in whatever way they need while they make their recovery. They may become angry, irritable, or withdrawn. They may not be interested in going out or doing things with you like they used to.
Your spouse or significant other may lose interest in sex. They are symptoms of the illness that requires treatment. When your loved one is depressed, they may often say one thing but mean another.
Distancing, or self-isolating is a common symptom of depression. Distancing is a self-destructing path, where the person pushes others away for one of many reasons. This is often times a cry for help. Be there for them. Bring them food, put on a movie, and just be there. One of the worst parts about depression — is that it robs hopes.
Hope that they will actually feel better. Hope that the darkness will lift. Offer them hope by reminding them of their reasons to keep living, whatever they may be. These reasons, which will be unique to the individual, can help them hold on a bit longer until the pain subsides.
One of the common misconceptions of depressed people is that they are lazy. This comes from the fact that they can often be messy and unproductive when they are in depressive stages. In fact, this is a direct symptom of depression. It is not that they are lazy, it is that they are exhausted, both mentally and physically.
Calling them lazy for not cleaning or completing tasks will only worsen their depression and feeling of self-worth. Instead, try encouraging them or even offering to help them with these tasks and complete them alongside them.
Deciding whether or not to end a relationship is a hard decision, and it can be even more difficult when worrying that your ex may sink into a deeper depression post-breakup.
All they want to do is get out of the tunnel, but they can't see where to go, they don't know what to do. Your natural reaction is to lead them out of this dark tunnel, back to the light. You may think it makes sense, but for the person with depression, nothing makes sense. That's the nature of the illness. They can't be led out of the tunnel, because the fear is too great, the darkness is too dark. Trying to drag them out of this tunnel is more likely to make them curl up and hide than do any good.
What you need to do is be there for them. If they talk, just listen. Don't talk, don't give them opinions. Just really listen. When I was at my worst, everybody I tried to talk to would give me an opinion on how I could 'make things better'. The thing was, I wasn't asking for an opinion. I just wanted to relay how I felt, and for the person to listen, give me a hug and reassure me that however long it took, they would stay in the darkness with me until I found my own way out. Yet nobody listened.
That, more than anything, is what you need to do. Sit with them, let them talk. However upsetting or shocking what they say is, don't give advice, just listen.
When they finish, hug them, tell them you love them, and that however long it takes, you will be there until they find the strength to get better. You will never be able to lead someone out of the dark tunnel, all you can do is stay in the tunnel with them until they feel strong enough to lead themselves out.
Yes, it's hard. In many ways, hearing my loved ones tell me about their darkness was worse than living in my own. Yes, it's often thankless.
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